you have to love yourself before someone else can love you. The reason for this is simple - our ideal partner is a reflection of us...Each of us has a unique belief system, a way of seeing the world that is slightly different to everyone else’s. It’s almost like our ego has a fingerprint. What turns us on, what turns us off. What we feel is important.
The types of people that come into our lives are affected by our beliefs. We meet people who have made the same sorts of choices we make. All these choices reflect our values and our way of being from day to day, minute to minute.
The problem comes when you are romantically attracted to people who are not on your wavelength. This means, people who are not right for you, but who have something that you respect, or admire, or just desire. You want to be with the other person to feel good about yourself, to fill some hole inside you or to change what other people think about you.
If you like yourself, you will like the people you naturally meet, and they will like you. If you don’t like yourself, you will waste energy trying to get with people who aren’t like you, or you will settle for being with someone you don’t like.
Once you accept yourself you will realise your true motives for wanting someone you can’t have. If you want to be with them to compensate for your own shortcomings, you will no longer want them. If you want them because you want to be like their ideal partner, then you will become that person. So there is never a need to change yourself for someone else.
Accept yourself, and you will like the potential partners you can get.
Improve yourself, and you will get the partner you want.
